Be Exceptional

I am reading this wonderful book “unoffendable”, by Brant Hansen and it has changed and challenged me a lot. I don’t really think of myself as an angry person, at all, but the more I read about anger and being offended I realize I am guilty.



War is not exceptional; peace is. Worry is not exceptional; trust is. Decay is not exceptional; restoration is. Anger is not exceptional; gratitude is. Selfishness is not exceptional; sacrifice is. Defensiveness is not exceptional; love is. And judgementalism is not exceptional,but grace is. (Brant Hansen – Unoffendable)

It is easier to be negative, easier to be bound to a reoccurring sin that keeps us chained, easier to lash out in anger, easier to think of ourselves first. Holding every thought captive, takes practice. Choosing joy in a dark situation, takes intentional thinking. Breaking free from bondage, takes faith and self- control. Excusing someones offense without penalty, takes grace. Grace is exceptional.

We live in a world that begs us to think of ourselves, to be angry and to be offended.

Yet, there is something powerful and incredibly compelling about someone who refuses to be offended.

Anger is always – not sometimes, always associated with foolishness, not wisdom. Eccl. 7:9 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the lap of fools.
Anger may visit us, but when it finds a residence, it’s “in the lap of fools.” Let that sink in. When anger lives, thats where it lives : in the lap of a fool. Thinking we are entitled to keep anger in our laps – whether toward the sin of a political figure, a news network, your dumb neighbor, your lying spouse, your deceased father, whomever – is perfectly natural, and perfectly foolish. Anger will happen; we’re human. But we can’t keep it. Like the Reverend King, we can recognize injustice, grieve it, and act against it – but without rage, without malice, and without anger. We have enough motivation, I hope, to defend the defenseless and protect the venerable, without needing anger. Seek justice; love mercy. You don’t have to  be angry to do that. People say we have to get angry to fight injustice, but I’ve noticed that the best police officers don’t do their job in anger. The best soldiers don’t function out of anger.(Brant Hansen – Unoffendable)

Anger does not enhance judgement.

Choosing not to take offense is not about simply ignoring wrongs. You can address the situation. You don’t have to accept it, but you can act without anger or bitterness.

I want my usual to be a spirit of peace, to look around and give thanks in joy, to love without defense, trust and not worry, be mindful at practicing self-control, have patience with my family, show kindness to people wherever I go and  to be gentle with my words. That is exceptional. Don’t we want to live exceptional? When I look back over a week, it pains my heart to reflect on how short I fall in all these areas. Life is not fun living in offense. Learning to be unoffendable sets you free. Be exceptional! Im writing that down in my kitchen,in my car, wherever I am to remind myself. Being unusual, not the norm, takes mindfulness. Practice. A habit, that turns into a lifestyle.



What is meditation? Meditation is relaxation. It is not about concentration, it’s actually about de-concentration. It’s not about focusing one’s thoughts on one thing, but instead on becoming thoughtless. If you need a crash course then watch this short video  Meditation can calm the body, mind, and spirit. It can help us to connect more…

Read More

Coconut Oil Hair Mask

We all need a little TLC when it comes to our bodies. It is so wonderful to focus and pay attention to how we can care for our bodies. One way I love to care for my hair is with a coconut oil mask. I try to do it at least 2x a month but…

Read More

Cilantro “oil-less” dressing

This dressing is the bomb! So easy to make and so good for you! I love that there is no oil in it. (fist bump) I simply added some pan seared salmon, toasted pine nuts and 2 cups spinach then drizzled this on top. So much flavor! Cilantro Dressing •half an avocado •¼ cup Greek…

Read More

What is Health?

Does being “healthy” feel like you are at the bottom of an uphill battle? Most of my days I am running around like a chicken with my head cut off and even preparing dinner feels super overwhelming at times. Then throw in the thought of dirty dishes post dinner! (sigh.) (Pizza night is my favorite…

Read More

Lemon Viniagerette

This salad is so good for you and stays crunchy and fresh for so long! This would a great one to take to work. You will need: – 1/2 bag precut greens {broccoli, kale,Brussel sprouts and cabbage} – 1/2 apple – Toasted almonds – 1 Tbsp Fresh dill For Vinaigrette: 2 Tbsp red wine vinegar…

Read More


   by : Ashley Crump If you were to look at a flash clip of your life there is probably one common thread that people consistently point out that they admire about you? Whether it be your ability to see things that other people have a difficult time seeing, or teach in a way that…

Read More